Forever Sad πŸ’”

I know I wasn’t planning to write any more blog posts for the near future but I am missing Raj so much recently. I wanted to write about him.

It is now December. Raj would have been 9 this month. It’s all I can think about. I would have been planning his birthday well in advance. Buying bits and pieces. Party bags, invites etc. I feel so very fragile at the moment. I am constantly living in this sad world right now. I can laugh and smile but deep inside my soul is so unhappy. I cant escape the hurt. I never will. That hurt is my love for Raj. I cant stop loving Raj. I therefore know I will forver be sad. I will forever be in pain.

I thought I was over the worst of my tears but the last few weeks, I feel like water just flows from my eyes like someone left the tap on. Grief really is so unpredictable.

Last year Raj told me he wanted a party. A certain themed party. On his birthday I will have this party. I wont let him down. Ever. I know he will come visit this day. I want him to come see his mum still honouring his memory and his wishes. I have bought all the decorations and I am excited because I know he will love it. 😁

The past few months have been busy. We took part in the Twilight Walk in Windsor and we reached the Β£50k mark for The Raj Rana Fund. That was a proud moment. My family and friends have been amazing in helping me achieve this. I will still continue with this work. I want a cure. No parent should feel this pain. I often hear from people they know my pain. Through the loss of family. Parents mostly. Honestly unless you have lost a child I dont think people know this pain. Losing a child is wrong on every level. Losing a child is the most heart wrenching thing you could feel. I cant lie. It has made me think, why do I even exist any more. That is a scary thing to think about. Your mind wonders why do I need to be here. All these are natural thoughts for any parent who has lost a child. The healing starts when you accept you must exist. There is no choice on this one. The toughest thing is accepting this is my path in life. Raj took his path. Our paths will cross again. We will reunite again. I know deep within my heart that moment will come.

Facebook is full of happy homes right now. I love happy homes. That’s how life should be. Right now my christmas tree and decorations sit downstairs in a box. Raj helped me every year. He loved Christmas and especially wearing a Christmas jumper. I know I have to put the decorations up. I know Raj would want them up. I know he visits me. I got to do the things he loved.

I watch the videos and pictures back. Raj was so beautiful 😊😊😊. Even when the steroids made him put on so much weight. That gorgeous smile shone through. I am so truly blessed to have had Raj in my life. He is an amazing soul.

23rd December….his birthday. Its going be so so hard. No more sending Raj to bed the night before and getting the decorations up. Watching his face so lit up in the morning as he saw the room. GOSH I love him so much.

I just wanted to write about my baby. Thankyou for reading my thoughts. Maybe I will continue to write for a bit. Sending out love and light to all. ❀

Author: mummyandraj

Im Suki, mummy to Raj who is forever 8. This is somewhere for me to share all the things that came with my son having a cancer diagnosis at 2 years old and life thereafter.

4 thoughts on “Forever Sad πŸ’””

  1. I know how you feel. I too lost my 3 children and the pain and grief doesn’t go away. You learn to smile because that it what people expect. Look after yourself and treasure your memories


  2. Suki, it was a pleasure to meet you today at the Brain Tumour Charity event at Westminster. Raj was a beautiful boy. My thoughts are with you as his birthday approaches. I am so sorry for your loss. Christina


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